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Because of social media and a smorgasbord of technological distractions, we have an abundance of opportunities to live through other people’s lives rather than live our own. We allow ourselves to be impressed by strangers’ social media posturings.
Sometimes we return the favor by posturing to impress them, ignoring the likelihood that they’re not paying attention to us as avidly as we pay attention to them. In one of the more absurd incarnations of vicarious living, we have graduated from playing video games ourselves (simulations of real life) to paying money to watch elite game players compete against one another in our favorite video games. We have gone from watching to watching others who do our watching.
Narcotized by technology, we sacrifice long-term purpose and fulfillment for the short-term dopamine-driven feedback loops created by Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, TikTok, and other sites. This is not healthy.
As with the pace of change, I don’t see a horizon where this societal problem slows down because a majority of us suddenly stop using social media’s irresistible tools. Only we can control how profoundly we allow vicarious living to infect our lives, one individual at a time.
The damage from this trend toward vicarious living is one of heightened distraction. Instead of focusing on what we know we should be doing, we are, in T. S. Eliot’s immortal phrasing, “distracted from distraction by distraction.”
It’s not just the fault of social media. Our entire world operates as a distraction engine. A warm sunny day, a baseball game on TV, breaking news on the radio, a phone call, a knock at the door, a family emergency, a sudden craving for a doughnut.
Anyone or anything can pull our focus from doing what we should be doing and coax us into doing what others want us to do. That’s one definition of not living your own life.
Again and again, it comes down to being aware of the moment, of where you are now, of knowing that you are constantly changing — still you, but evolving constantly.
Distractions take you out of your own life, don’t they?
That’s not the best way to an earned life — you don’t find true fulfillment through living vicariously.