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In this feedforward exercise, people are asked to:
Choose to change one behavior to make a positive difference in their lives.
Describe this behavior to others.
Ask for two suggestions for achieving a positive change in the behavior.
Listen to suggestions and take notes without commenting on them.
Thank others for their suggestions.
Ask others what they would like to change.
Provide feedforward – two suggestions aimed at helping them change.
Say, “You are welcome.” when thanked for the suggestions.
Giving and receiving feedforward only takes about two minutes. When asked to describe this experience, people use words like “great, energizing, useful, helpful, fun.” Few of us think of feedback as fun!
10 Reasons to Try Feedforward
People enjoy receiving feedforward for 10 good reasons:
1. We can change the future, not the past.
Feedforward helps people envision and focus on a positive future, not a failed past. By giving people ideas on how they can be even more successful, we increase their chances of success.
2. It is more productive to help people be right, than prove them wrong.
Negative feedback often becomes an exercise in proving others wrong. This tends to produce defensiveness on the part of the receiver and discomfort on the part of the sender. Even constructive feedback is often seen as negative. Feedforward is positive. It focuses on solutions.
3. Successful people like getting ideas aimed at helping them achieve their goals.
They tend to resist negative judgment, accepting feedback that is consistent with the way they see themselves and rejecting or denying other feedback. They respond to (and even enjoy) feedforward.
4. Feedforward can come from anyone who knows the task, not just the person.
Almost any one can give you ideas on how you can improve. They don’t have to know you. Feedback requires knowing the person. Feedforward just requires having helpful ideas.
5. People do not take feedforward as personally as feedback.
Constructive feedback is supposed to focus on the performance, not the person, and yet most feedback is taken personally.
6. Feedforward assumes that people can make positive changes in the future, whereas feedback tends to reinforce stereotyping, self-fulfilling prophecies, and feelings of failure.
How many of us have been “helped” by a spouse, friend, or colleague who recites our “sins” and shortcomings? Negative feedback reinforces the message, “This is just the way you are.”
7. Most of us hate getting negative feedback, and we don’t like to give it.
Most of us are not very good at giving or receiving negative feedback. Nor do we value the more positive skills of “providing timely feedback” and “encouraging and accepting constructive criticism.”
8. Feedforward can cover most of the same “material” as feedback, but in a more positive manner.
Imagine that you just made a terrible presentation. Using the feedforward approach, your manager helps you prepare for future presentations by giving you very specific suggestions in a positive way, rather than make you “relive” this humiliating experience.
9. Feedforward tends to be more efficient and effective than feedback.
For example, in giving ideas to people, you might say, “Here are four ideas for the future. Please accept them in the positive spirit that they are given. If you can only use two of the ideas, you are still ahead. Just ignore what doesn’t make sense for you.” With this approach, no time is wasted on judging the ideas or proving them wrong.
10. Feedforward can be used with managers, peers, and team members.
Rightly or wrongly, feedback is associated with judgment. This can lead to very negative outcomes. Feedforward does not imply superior judgment. Since it is more focused on being helpful, it is easier to hear. Invite people to ask, “How can I better help our team in the future?” and listen to feedforward from fellow team members.
So, in addition to giving feedback, start giving feedforward and make your life and workplace more enjoyable. By using feedforward, you not only convey the right message, you also ensure that those who receive it are receptive to its content, open to change, and focused on the promise of the future rather than the mistakes of the past.