Do You Work with a Credit Hog? MG THINKERS 50...
This is what happens in the LPR: Insights and clarity sneak up on you, because (a) every day you have to measure your effort on dealing with meaningful issues, and (b) at week’s end you’re exposed to smart people discussing those issues. All you have to do is show up and catch the nuggets as they fall from everyone’s lips.
By the way, I owe the insight about the value of measuring effort rather than results to my daughter Kelly Goldsmith, who taught me the difference between asking “active” and “passive” questions. “Do you have clear goals?” is passive. “Did you do your best to set clear goals?” is active, because it places the burden on you rather than your situation.
You can also use the rigid structure of the LPR work for you.
The rules of an LPR are few, but they are strict—show up every week, be nice, report your scores. But even with the most rigid structures, you can always find room to improvise within the lines. After a few weeks of sessions, I introduced two questions for each participant to wrap up the meeting: What did you learn this week? and What are you proud of this week? I wasn’t trying to provoke anyone; I was just curious. It became a permanent feature of our sessions.
Another time, when I saw a new member visibly in emotional pain (2020 was a rough year for many people), I called an audible. I asked each member to give the newbie one piece of advice that would help him (an example of feedforward). The session went 30 minutes longer than usual, but I believe he was profoundly touched by everyone’s concern and generosity. The following week, he was a changed man.
The most valuable feature of the LPR is that people are there to help one another.
If you spot an opportunity during the meeting to make someone’s life a little better, seize it.
Improvise. Fool around with the format. Call your audible.
(And let me know about it. You’ll be helping me, too.)