Playing Favorites By Marshall Goldsmith There’s a reason I devote...
There are several ways to do this:
First, earn your beginnings — that is, recognize where one phase of your life begins and another ends.
You are always in transition — take advantage of that.
Second, disengage from your past.
Before you can effectively earn the next phase of your life, you have to disengage from the old phase you claim to have left behind. Let go of past achievements, relinquish your old identity and way of doing things.
Third, master what I call “the earning response.”
Create a habit to “earn” your life. We can control our behavior, and build a habit of earning your life through the right actions. Change the response, and then change the habit.
Fourth, play the shot in front of you.
In golf, you’re not supposed to move your ball from where it lands to give yourself a better shot.
The best players deal with what they have in front of them. They live in the present.
In other words, every set of facts we see is situational—and there’s something noble in dealing as best we can with what’s in front of us.
We earn each new beginning in life. We close the door on one part of our life and open a new door, with a three-step sequence of Stimulus, Response, and Outcome.
My teachers in graduate school referred to it as the ABC sequence, for Antecedent, Behavior, and Consequence. I’ve heard others describe it as the Cause-Action-Effect sequence.
Whatever the nomenclature, only the middle part of the sequence matters: our response (or behavior or action).
That’s the part we can control and change.