Obligations Can Keep Us from Creating Our Own Lives

Obligations Can Keep Us from Creating Our Own Lives By Marshall Goldsmith About a decade ago, someone I know decided to act for himself after years of working for others, and to try something new. He was given an opportunity through his newspaper, which was trimming its ranks. After taking a buyout at the newspaper […]

Lack of Imagination Can Hold Us Back

A Failure of Imagination Can Hold Us Back By Marshall Goldsmith I know a coach whose first task for his clients is to have them draw up a list of their dreams, their goals, for the next five years. “Shoot for the moon!” he tells them: dream big. “Way too often, their goals are quite […]

What Keeps You Locked in Place

What Keeps You Locked in Place By Marshall Goldsmith Sometimes the things that keep us from creating our own life is the way we were taught, or the way we were raised. We default to those learned characteristics, which can lead us into assuming we’re not capable of change.  In a way, what we’ve been […]

Don’t Choose Inertia for Your Earned Life

Don’t Let Inertia Create Your Life By Marshall Goldsmith It’s so difficult for us to decide which way will bring us success or happiness.When we were in grade school, many of us read or learned by heart the Robert Frost poem, “The Road Not Taken,” which begins: “Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,/And sorry I […]

Are You Stopping Yourself from Creating an Earned Life?

You May Be Stopping Yourself from Creating Your Own Life By Marshall Goldsmith It’s easier today to create your own life than it has ever been. As many people are aware, in the last few years — with the pandemic upending many areas of society and changing profoundly how people work — the great upheaval […]

Don’t Let Inertia Create Your Life

DON’T LET INERTIA CREATE YOUR LIFE By Marshall Goldsmith It’s so difficult for us to decide which way will bring us success or happiness.  When we were in grade school, many of us read or learned by heart the Robert Frost poem, “The Road Not Taken,” which begins: “Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,/And […]

When to Start Living Your Own Life

When to Start Living Your Own Life By Marshall Goldsmith People are always being categorized — they’re parts of groups rather than individuals. And how do we respond?  Back in 1907, the philosopher/psychologist William James wrote, “What shall we call a thing anyhow? It seems quite arbitrary, for we carve out everything, just as we […]

Nothing Is Stopping You from Creating Your Own Life

Nothing Is Stopping You from Creating Your Own Life By Marshall Goldsmith Fulfillment comes from many things, but as I mentioned in an earlier post, if you do what you love, with purpose, you are more likely to feel that you have lived your life best, you have lived an “earned life.” Many people who […]

How To Better Comprehend Letting Go

How To Better Comprehend Letting Go Exercise: The Two Letters By Marshall Goldsmith Here’s an exercise that can help you comprehend this in a more concrete way:  This exercise is for people who intellectually understand the Every Breath Paradigm I’ve spoken about, but who haven’t developed the muscle memory that makes it natural and instinctive […]

On Impermanence and the Earned Life

On Impermanence and the Earned Life By Marshall Goldsmith I have spoken about Buddhism and my approach to coaching, which uses one of the Buddha’s main tenets regarding living well: Everything is impermanent, and we are constantly renewing ourselves with every breath, changing constantly. This is a very different perspective than most of Western thinking, […]